February 2012
79 posts
yesterday
Boy and I are standing on the sidewalk. Two people walk by. One mutters to the other: “Cheap ass fruit.” Boy looks taken aback, face all screwed up into a “What? Seriously?” expression. Then we realize we are actually standing in front of the markdown bin of a produce stand.
CATAMITE: skankassqueer/twiggy is a racist shitbag →
a-bayani:
(besides being awful in other ways if you were unaware, but it ain’t my place to speak on that)
so if you reblog things from her i will unfollow you.
i sent her a message that said this, and she replied with photos of bloody dead pigs. what an upstanding person. i didn’t want to publish a “this person is shitty” post but since she didn’t post this on her blog it seems she doesn’t...
whencylonsdream asked: Kinda want to buy pink fishnets and a ton of glitter myself now.
personal news/ update
So recently I went out to do some errands. I was wearing bdu pants, boots, and a nice top, all in black, with my chelsea haircut. While on the bus, it occurred to me that when people look at me they will see either a tr***y or a fucking neonazi. Maybe both. It’s pretty clear that I ought to rethink my presentation.
A voice I like to call the white devil’s advocate says “Wait! The chelsea is...
Anonymous asked: It is appropriative and racist for white people to have tattoos. You ought to cut yours off.
Anonymous asked: Thanks for thinking critically about your tattoo. As a trans PoC, I personally feel that being white doesn't invalidate your experience with cis oppression, but I do feel unwelcome and unsafe when I see white queer people trying to reappropriate skinhead aesthetics -- which includes the idealization of street violence in statements like "bash back"/"die cis scum"
Gender Imperialism →
a-bayani:
(via The Biyuti Collective)
According the San Francisco Trans March’s about page, this was part of the original callout that started the march:
to encourage more trans and gender-variant people to come out; to build connections among ftm, mtf, bayot, crossdressers, sadhin, hijra, transvestites, bantut, drag queens, drag kings, mahu, transsexuals, bakla, travesti, genderqueers,...
olypunkboi asked: Hey as a trans masculine poor person of color I wanted to say good job being a less shitty person and showing up as an ally. Your response to that anon submission to your tattoo was great. Not only were you able to hold and have your experiences, you also acknowledged your privilege and the experiences of those who hold less privilege. Also your willingness to listen and get additional...
Anonymous asked: how are you going to deal with the tattoo? i mean, you can't really have it anymore now that you're aware its oppressive, right?
crankyskirt asked: (I'm black, 1st-gen USian, and a non-binary femme.) I was one of the people who reblogged the picture, because I believe that oppressed folks should be allowed to express rage. That said, when I reblogged it, I wrote how I wanted to see this message on other POC, specifically because we brown folks, globally, are the ones who get shat on more consistently for any parts of our identity...
crankyskirt asked: ... POC with regard to the sentiment in my commentary, rather than confront you on your tattoo. Plus, as someone said in their repost, skinhead imagery means something different to POC observers, even those who participate in subcultures that feature skinhead expressions, specifically because we're not white.
Anonymous asked: i really think you should get that tattoo covered up. my black, african immigrant father (who is a CIS MAN, mind you) doesn't have a fraction of the amount of privilege you do. neither do i. neither do any POC.
racism & die cis scum
Forgive me for sending this as a submission and not an ask, but it’s way too long and I didn’t want to whittle it down and lose the nuance. Let me start off by saying that I’m happy that the fervor over your “die cis scum” tattoo has died down, and I don’t want to pile on for the sake of piling on. However, certain things have been nagging me about it for a while, and while it clearly took me a...
old writing
I first wrote this about 3-4 years ago. Considering what’s happened in that time, I suppose it isn’t a surprise that this piece makes me feel a little strange.
Part 1
I’d owned the boots for years, and they had seen decent use. Black attire fits most any occasion. I’d strutted and stomped in these through most of my adult life. The toes were scuffed and the leather was beginning to...
Anonymous asked: tw: cissexism. a cis guy was in my apartment intentionally misgendering me and claiming not to be cissexist or oppressive while doing so. and then IMMEDIATELY one of my usually gentle cats bit his hand and began scratching his wrist with back claws. i think my cat was just trying to play, but i now refer to that cat as my "die cis scum" cat.
NCSF survey of violence and discrimination
Instead of telling stories about hypothetical privileged kinky people, let’s take a quick look at this.
PS
pussytooth:
under the cut bc it’s boring/personal/Dear Diary/gender foo
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this is so sweet.
I cannot
There is a discussion going on about the idea of ‘nilla priv. I wanted to draw attention to two bits in particular:
fourloves excellent response
verbalprivilege has an excellent response to another very good point made by fourloves
I tried to put the following under a cut because it made me feel awkward and self-conscious, but tumblr is giving me a lot of trouble right now so oh...
The King of a Hundred Hearts: fourloves:... →
fourloves:
Hi Char, I don’t think I’ve ever talked to you before but you just became my hero of the Internet. Having to see the “lololol vanilla privilege isn’t real” stuff on my dash (posted by friends I don’t want to unfollow) is one of the reasons I stopped using tumblr. If I respond to it, it turns into something where I’m portrayed as thinking that oppression for being gay = oppression for...
vanilla priv
The SF Citadel, one of the only aboveground, legal venues open to anyone 18+ who professes an interest in kink, is in danger of not having a space. Zoning issues are quoted as validation for kicking us out of what was to be our home. We have until the end of this month at the current location. What happens after that is unknown. The owners run an incredibly legit, documented organization, but...
“cannot handle being told this is not a thing right now
The community dungeon I...”
– CATAMITE: wrote a fucking post on kinkphobia and then deleted it
Anonymous asked: I don't know what to say. First off I'm a trans person. The first time I saw your tattoo I was repulsed. But after thinking for a long time, I like what your tattoo is doing. It shows the pain and fear of marginalized people. Although I don't share the literal sentiment of the tattoo as I'm a very kind spirit and try to rid myself of hatred towards anyone. But, you seem like a...
“It’s funny how the fear of offending is greater than the fear of pain.”
– Martin Vanger
One of my favorite moments in the American film version of The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo, in which a predator succinctly explains how rape culture works for him.
(via catamite)
My workplace indulges a sometimes peculiar sense of humor. Happy vd?
(Dead flesh under the cut.)
genderundefined asked: Personally I enjoy Die Cis Scum although my philosophy is just Die Scum. But the real thing I wanted to say is that you and your partner are adorable together! ^_^ Oh and you somehow managed to make barbed wire sexy! ;)
nobodylistenstozathras asked: so is grindglittercore a thing? is there really a queer grind scene? I'd like to be a part of it, if there is
Anonymous asked: Oh I meant that information about safe kinky sex is absent from healthcare and education as institutions which is definitely institutional discrimination... actually I don't even know if I'm making sense. Haha.
the fact that safe sex from a kinky perspective is so taboo
From the last post, from an anon, I don’t know what they are trying to say there but the friends who I have in the kink community are very safe with what they do, while it maybe outside what is viewed as “normal” but what is normal but a abstract contract anyway. They take classes and there is that thing called SSC...
!!!!!!!!!!!!
I log on for seriously like a second for the first time in days just to schedule a little something to pop up on vd and I get into a thing from a vanilla about how there is no vanilla priv.
grumble mutter mutter grumble snark
Anonymous asked: People into kink also face the distinct possibility of medical discrimination, do they not? If someone had a kink-related injury it might be difficult for them to get treatment either because of prejudiced doctors or just fear of the stigma, plus the fact that safe sex from a kinky perspective is so taboo, that might count as discrimination as well. Medical discrimination is without a doubt...
the Palace of Hate: Phrases that immediately make... →
virgin-eater:
virgin-eater:
rabbitfeminist:
autumn-and-eve:
therapsida:
“speciesism”
“vanilla privilege”
“human privilege”
“reverse racism”
“misandry”
“Zionist genocide”
so much more
me, immediately upon hearing the above
is vanilla privilege not a thing? I’d always…
Alright, I’ll read up on it more, sorry- I trust your judgement since everything else you post about has...
Anonymous asked: i'm not even THAT radical of a social justice person compared to some folks on here but i would DEF say nilla priv is a thing, and i am surprised ppl would say otherwise. there are so many bad stereotypes about kink. do ppl forget the average white, middleclass, cis associations with kink are usually "serial killer"/"buffalo bill"/"pedophile" and other...
Phrases that immediately make my brain shut off in...
virgin-eater:
rabbitfeminist:
autumn-and-eve:
therapsida:
“speciesism”
“vanilla privilege”
“human privilege”
“reverse racism”
“misandry”
“Zionist genocide”
so much more
me, immediately upon hearing the above
is vanilla privilege not a thing? I’d always heard it was but maybe I’ve been listening to douchebags. Would someone explain further?
“Vanilla privilege” isn’t a thing...
skinbyrds:
oh hooray!
pussytooth:
ok I lied about the “last post” thing
full disclosure: a certain someone (read: the Mister) has a few dreads in the back. He’ll buzz that stuff yet! He must come to that choice himself. The only time I ever shaved someone’s head against their will is…well, that’s a story for another day
I would love to hear that story.
WE ARE NOT GOING ON THAT ROAD TRIP
catamite:
BECAUSE COPS LIKE TO RUIN EVERYTHING
THEY FUCKING IMPOUNDED CHAR’S CAR AND LICENSE
BECAUSE OF THEIR DUI FROM SIX YEARS AGO
YEP SIX YEARS
FOR SIX YEARS MULTIPLE BUREAUCRACIES HAVE FAILED TO FIGURE OUT THAT SOMETHING NEEDED FIXING
SO NOW TONIGHT I GOT TO SEE MY PARTNER CUFFED IN THE BACK OF A COP CAR
WHILE THEY ILLEGALLY SEARCHED OUR VEHICLE
My legs were shaking so badly, I had no...
socialistscum:
Priceless. Pot of gold.
DON’T I JUST MOTHERFUCKIN WISH